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commitments

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“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes… but no plans.”
– Peter F(erdinand) Drucker (b. 1909), Austrian writer, author, educator

I believe in living up to my commitments. If a commitment is something that I make to another person or to myself, they become imperative that I live up to them. I feel like I lack responsibility if I don’t live up to them.

Then, there are times when I just want to throw everything out and do whatever feels good and not, necessarily, what is expected of me.

I’m sure many people feel this dichotomy within themselves. The question is, how do we reconcile that part of us that wants to be free and the part of us that wants to be respected? Are they mutually exclusive or can they be combined?

I over commit because I don’t like to say no to people. I want to be able to give others what they want from me but that sometimes means that I am denying myself something, as well. Usually that “something” is time for myself, freedom to have time, or even the power to say “no.”

When I over commit, I feel pressure. I put pressure on myself to try to make everything work. The problem with that is that I’m not able to make everything work. Sometimes it’s not up to me. Sometimes “making it work” is dependent on far more people than just me. Occasionally the pressure gets to me and then I’m overwhelmed. When I become overwhelmed, it seems that apathy follows.

It’s the weirdest mix of feelings, I must say. I know I’m competent. I know that I’m responsible. I know that I can do the things I say I will do. For some reason, though, I hit a point and that’s it. I’ve hit a wall and I just quit.

When I get to that point, I’m tired. I’m exhausted. It wears me out. It’s hard for me to bounce back from that.

I’m probably feeling this way now because I’ve been sick for so long and am now riding this roller-coaster with the surgeries and all. I’m tired of being sick and I’m feeling like I’m not living up to my commitments. I have classes to be in, work to be doing, and people to be supporting. I feel like I’ve let a lot of people down.

I’m sure that doesn’t help with me being sick. The stress tends to affect me adversely in that I get more sick when I feel stress. I can’t stay away from my work e-mail because I figure that keeping up will help out my co-workers more but when I do read it, there isn’t much I can do from my house as far as my job goes (yet…hopefully we’ll be working on that soon!).

I’m distressed. I’m exhausted. I need to get back into life.

Tuesday October 22, 2002

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“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes… but no plans.”

– Peter F(erdinand) Drucker (b. 1909), Austrian writer, author, educator

 

I believe in living up to my commitments.  If a commitment is something that I make to another person or to myself, they become imperative that I live up to them.  I feel like I lack responsibility if I don’t live up to them.

 

Then, there are times when I just want to throw everything out and do whatever feels good and not, necessarily, what is expected of me.

 

I’m sure many people feel this dichotomy within themselves.  The question is, how do we reconcile that part of us that wants to be free and the part of us that wants to be respected?  Are they mutually exclusive or can they be combined?

 

I over commit because I don’t like to say no to people.  I want to be able to give others what they want from me but that sometimes means that I am denying myself something, as well.  Usually that “something” is time for myself, freedom to have time, or even the power to say “no.”

 

When I over commit, I feel pressure.  I put pressure on myself to try to make everything work.  The problem with that is that I’m not able to make everything work.  Sometimes it’s not up to me.  Sometimes “making it work” is dependent on far more people than just me.  Occasionally the pressure gets to me and then I’m overwhelmed.  When I become overwhelmed, it seems that apathy follows.

 

It’s the weirdest mix of feelings, I must say.  I know I’m competent.  I know that I’m responsible.  I know that I can do the things I say I will do.  For some reason, though, I hit a point and that’s it.  I’ve hit a wall and I just quit.

 

When I get to that point, I’m tired.  I’m exhausted.  It wears me out.  It’s hard for me to bounce back from that.

 

I’m probably feeling this way now because I’ve been sick for so long and am now riding this roller-coaster with the surgeries and all.  I’m tired of being sick and I’m feeling like I’m not living up to my commitments.  I have classes to be in, work to be doing, and people to be supporting.  I feel like I’ve let a lot of people down.

 

I’m sure that doesn’t help with me being sick.  The stress tends to affect me adversely in that I get more sick when I feel stress.  I can’t stay away from my work e-mail because I figure that keeping up will help out my co-workers more but when I do read it, there isn’t much I can do from my house as far as my job goes (yet…hopefully we’ll be working on that soon!).

 

I’m distressed.  I’m exhausted.  I need to get back into life.

Sunday October 20, 2002

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“‘Lost Illusion’ is the undisclosed title of every novel.”

– André Maurois (1885-1967), [Émile Herzog] French writer, essayist, “Atmosphere of Love,” “The Family Circle”

 

I’m sitting in my living room looking around and trying to think of topics for my latest journal entry and it hits me.  Titles.  I glance in one direction and I see a book called Eat Mangos Naked by Sark.  She’s great.  She shares her experiences in fun and silly ways and makes you realize that life doesn’t have to be suffering (despite what the Buddhists may say).

 

I look in another direction and my eyes fall upon one of my newest acquisitions, The Way to Write for Children by Joan Aiken.  This was a true find.  I was wandering through the writing section of Bookman’s and happened upon it.   Ms. Aiken gives some wonderful insight into finding out if you really want to write for children or about children and the differences between doing so for different ages of children.

 

The next title that catches my eye is I Don’’t Want to Sleep Tonight by Deborah Norville (of morning news fame).  This book is a wonderful adventure into a young child’s experiences with the monsters that live within his room as soon as the lights are turned out.  Willow and I have read this so many times that she practically knows it by heart.

 

At the same time that I stumbled across the Aiken book, two other books fell into my hands.  One of the books I had been looking for and was pleased to find it.  The other, by the same other, was a bonus buy.  Writing Down the Bones and Wild Minds: Living the Writer’s Life by Natalie Goldberg are books that make me smile just to look at them.  It is possible to earn a living writing.  It may not happen for me but it is possible.

 

Books, in my house, are even more numerous than plants (and that’s saying a lot).  I think about what makes a book.  A title is important.  It attracts a reader like the green of a leaf attracts a gardener.  Use a word one way and you may get one type of reader.  Use it another and you may attract a different type of reader.  What makes people decide on the titles they’ve chosen?  Is it the editor that has come up with it or did the writer of this particular book win out?

 

I’ve been thinking about titles even more lately because I have to come up with enough pieces for a chapbook sometime in November and I will have to title the book.  The only thing I can think of to call my work is The Bottom of the Barrel.  I thought that beginning at the bottom of the barrel for my current writing life only allows me to work my way up.  There is nowhere to go but up.  That may be a good place to start.  What if that is too pessimistic, though?  Maybe I should be more optimistic.  I could choose something like Riding on a Cloud but that may seem too “out there.”  I thought of Forget~Me~Not and like it because it has so many connotations. Cliche’, cliche’, cliche’.  Ugh.

 

Sometimes the writing is the easy part.  The hard part is coming up with something that will draw the reader in to actually read what I’ve written.

titles

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“‘Lost Illusion’ is the undisclosed title of every novel.”
– André Maurois (1885-1967), [Émile Herzog] French writer, essayist, “Atmosphere of Love,” “The Family Circle”

I’m sitting in my living room looking around and trying to think of topics for my latest journal entry and it hits me. I glance in one direction and I see a book called Eat Mangos Naked by Sark. She’s great. She shares her experiences in fun and silly ways and makes you realize that life doesn’t have to be suffering (despite what the Buddhists may say).

I look in another direction and my eyes fall upon one of my newest acquisitions, The Way to Write for Children by Joan Aiken. This was a true find. I was wandering through the writing section of Bookman’s and happened upon it. Ms. Aiken gives some wonderful insight into finding out if you really want to write for children or about children and the differences between doing so for different ages of children.

The next title that catches my eye is I Don’’t Want to Sleep Tonight by Deborah Norville (of morning news fame). This book is a wonderful adventure into a young child’s experiences with the monsters that live within his room as soon as the lights are turned out. Willow and I have read this so many times that she practically knows it by heart.

At the same time that I stumbled across the Aiken book, two other books fell into my hands. One of the books I had been looking for and was pleased to find it. The other, by the same other, was a bonus buy. Writing Down the Bones and Wild Minds: Living the Writer’s Life by Natalie Goldberg are books that make me smile just to look at them. It is possible to earn a living writing. It may not happen for me but it is possible. Books, in my house, are even more numerous than plants (and that’s saying a lot).

I think about what makes a book.< A title is important. It attracts a reader like the green of a leaf attracts a gardener. Use a word one way and you may get one type of reader. Use it another and you may attract a different type of reader. What makes people decide on the titles they've chosen? Is it the editor that has come up with it or did the writer of this particular book win out?

I've been thinking about titles even more lately because I have to come up with enough pieces for a chapbook sometime in November and I will have to title the book. The only thing I can think of to call my work is The Bottom of the Barrel.

I thought that beginning at the bottom of the barrel for my current writing life only allows me to work my way up. There is nowhere to go but up. That may be a good place to start. What if that is too pessimistic, though? Maybe I should be more optimistic.

I could choose something like Riding on a Cloud but that may seem too “out there.” I thought of Forget~Me~Not and like it because it has so many connotations. Cliche’, cliche’, cliche’. Ugh.

Sometimes the writing is the easy part.

The hard part is coming up with something that will draw the reader in to actually read what I’ve written.

plants

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“Out of damp and gloomy days, out of solitude, out of loveless words directed at us, conclusions grow up in us like fungus: one morning they are there, we know not how, and they gaze upon us, morose and gray. Woe to the thinker who is not the gardener but only the soil of the plants that grow in him!”
– Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche (1844-1900), German philosopher

I don’t feel like I have enough plants. I see one that needs some love, one that catches my eye, one that is on sale, or one that I actually have to hunt for to see and I’m smitten. I’m taken in by the various greens of the leaves, the shapes and textures of each plant calls to me. I have some plants that I’ve had for over 15 years. These plants have been through everything with me. They have survived numerous moves, traveling in hot moving vans, passing through Arizona deserts, Colorado winters, California humidity, and everything in between. Sometimes I’m amazed that they are still with me. Other plants are special simply for the reasons that they’ve come to me.

I have one ficus rubber plant that is probably the most meaningful plant that I have. It was given to my brother and his wife when my niece, Willow, was born. My brother offered to me, claiming that his black thumb would surely kill it. It was large when I got it, standing nearly 2 feet tall. Now, 3 ½ years later, it stands nearly 4 feet tall. It hasn’t been an easy relationship. This plant is extremely picky about environment. Leaves have folded in on themselves, leaves have dropped, and stems have become leggy. It’s still around, though, and reminds me of Willow every time I look at it. I currently have over 70 indoor plants. I live in a small house of 545 square feet. There is a plant everywhere I look. My mom once said that I might as well turn my house into a greenhouse. What I wouldn’t do for a greenhouse.

I don’t feel like I have enough plants, though. Well, that’s not true. I know I have more than enough plants for now (that’s why I need to buy a bigger house. Heh!).

It’s just…well…I go anywhere and I see a plant that calls to me and I think I need it. They say my name. “Come to
me. They know they will be loved in my house. Yes, yes…I’m applying human attributes to my plants (again with this anthropomorphizing!

I have some amazing plants. I have the stand-bys. I have spider plants, dieffenbachia, pothos, arrowheads, and wandering jews. I have a Chinese evergreen, an ivy that actually grows in a dry climate, palm trees, aloes, fuzzy Swedish ivy, and one called Silver Squill.

December is coming. I think it’s time for the Arboretum’s fall sale. Maybe some new plants will be making my home or office their home.

I can hope, can’t I?

Friday October 18, 2002

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“Out of damp and gloomy days, out of solitude, out of loveless words directed at us, conclusions grow up in us like fungus: one morning they are there, we know not how, and they gaze upon us, morose and gray. Woe to the thinker who is not the gardener but only the soil of the plants that grow in him!”

– Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche (1844-1900), German philosopher

 

I don’t feel like I have enough plants.  I see one that needs some love, one that catches my eye, one that is on sale, or one that I actually have to hunt for to see and I’m smitten.  I’m taken in by the various greens of the leaves, the shapes and textures of each plant calls to me.

 

I have some plants that I’ve had for over 15 years.  These plants have been through everything with me.  They have survived numerous moves, traveling in hot moving vans, passing through Arizona deserts, Colorado winters, California humidity, and everything in between.  Sometimes I’m amazed that they are still with me.

 

Other plants are special simply for the reasons that they’ve come to me.  I have one ficus rubber plant that is probably the most meaningful plant that I have.  It was given to my brother and his wife when my niece, Willow, was born.  My brother offered to me, claiming that his black thumb would surely kill it.  It was large when I got it, standing nearly 2 feet tall.  Now, 3 ½ years later, it stands nearly 4 feet tall.  It hasn’t been an easy relationship.  This plant is extremely picky about environment.  Leaves have folded in on themselves, leaves have dropped, and stems have become leggy.  It’s still around, though, and reminds me of Willow every time I look at it.

 

I currently have over 70 indoor plants.  I live in a small house of 545 square feet.  There is a plant everywhere I look.  My mom once said that I might as well turn my house into a greenhouse.  What I wouldn’t do for a greenhouse.  I don’t feel like I have enough plants, though.  Well, that’s not true.  I know I have more than enough plants for now (that’s why I need to buy a house!  Heh!).  It’s just…well…I go anywhere and I see a plant that calls to me and I think I need it.

 

They say my name.  “Come to me.”  They know they will be loved in my house.  Yes, yes…I’m applying human attributes to my plants (again with this anthropomorphizing!  :-)  ).

 

I have some amazing plants.  I have the stand-bys.  I have spider plants, dieffenbachia, pothos, arrowheads, and wandering jews.  I have a Chinese evergreen, an ivy that actually grows in a dry climate, palm trees, aloes, fuzzy Swedish ivy, and one called Silver Squill.

 

December is coming.  I think it’s time for the Arboretum’s fall sale.  Maybe some new plants will be making my home or office their home.

 

I can hope, can’t I?

hobbies

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Hobbies, for me, are one of the most delightful things in the world. They add to our lives, they make our time here much more rich. They allow us to explore venues that we would not, otherwise, be able to take part in because time wouldn’t allow beyond work, family, and other responsibilities.

In my life, I’ve been blessed with meeting many different people with a lot of varying skills. My father, since I was young, has been artistic. When we lived in Montana, he was a political cartoonist for the daily newspaper. He also did amazing metal work. He would make covered wagons, log cabins, Model-T’s and various other things out of tin cans, scrap metals, and bolts. He always carried a camera around, taking pictures of everything that was pleasing to him. His photographs have won awards at local fairs. People have offered him money for some of his images.

My brother, Todd, is an artist with his hands. He doesn’t throw pottery, fashion metal art, or work with wood. He works with automobiles, Jeeps, to be exact. He finds some old damaged, junked, wrecked Jeep and builds it back up to a beautiful showpiece that he can sell. He loves doing it. I can call his house nearly every night and find him answering the phone in the garage as he works on his newest acquisition.

The people I associate with most at work tend to be the most creative people around. I am drawn to them. They are gifted in many things ranging from writing to quilting to pottery. They share their gifts, their skills. They ask my opinion on their works. They ask for my input with new projects. They share their loves with me and it expands my life tenfold.

I think that I am like a mimic. I learn from everyone, picking up skills here and there. I write often, hoping that I am becoming better and knowing that this is what my heart seeks. I bead jewelry, a skill I learned 5 years ago when I had an empty summer afternoon in San Jose and a friend was ready to share. I’ve even sold some of my jewelry. To me, it’s a hobby. To others, though, it seems that these pieces are worth something. I have always loved photography. I take pictures of everything. I am rarely without a camera or two…or three. I have recently learned how to quilt and am loving it. I cross-stitch when I’m not busy with other things. I can’t remember a holiday when I didn’t give homemade gifts instead of store-bought gifts. I love music and own 6 different kinds of flutes. I make homemade cards to send to my niece with stories on them.

While I may be only mediocre at some of these skills, I’ve found that they all feed off of one another. One will be the impetus to get me to think in different ways for another. Can I incorporate beadwork into my quilting or cross-stitch? How can I get that green from a photo into the beadwork that I’m pulling together? What am I doing that can add to my stories for my niece? What will be the next adventure that I will embark upon to add more richness to my life? Maybe I will take up baking and canning. Hmm.

Thursday October 17, 2002

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Hobbies

Hobbies, for me, are one of the most delightful things in the world. They add to our lives, they make our time here much more rich. They allow us to explore venues that we would not, otherwise, be able to take part in because time wouldn’t allow beyond work, family, and other responsibilities.

In my life, I’ve been blessed with meeting many different people with a lot of varying skills. My father, since I was young, has been artistic. When we lived in Montana, he was a political cartoonist for the daily newspaper. He also did amazing metal work. He would make covered wagons, log cabins, Model-T’s and various other things out of tin cans, scrap metals, and bolts. He always carried a camera around, taking pictures of everything that was pleasing to him. His photographs have won awards at local fairs. People have offered him money for some of his images.

My brother, Todd, is an artist with his hands. He doesn’t throw pottery, fashion metal art, or work with wood. He works with automobiles, Jeeps, to be exact. He finds some old damaged, junked, wrecked Jeep and builds it back up to a beautiful showpiece that he can sell. He loves doing it. I can call his house nearly every night and find him answering the phone in the garage as he works on his newest acquisition.

The people I associate with most at work tend to be the most creative people around. I am drawn to them. They are gifted in many things ranging from writing to quilting to pottery. They share their gifts, their skills. They ask my opinion on their works. They ask for my input with new projects. They share their loves with me and it expands my life tenfold.

I think that I am like a mimic. I learn from everyone, picking up skills here and there. I write often, hoping that I am becoming better and knowing that this is what my heart seeks. I bead jewelry, a skill I learned 5 years ago when I had an empty summer afternoon in San Jose and a friend was ready to share. I’ve even sold some of my jewelry. To me, it’s a hobby. To others, though, it seems that these pieces are worth something. I have always loved photography. I take pictures of everything. I am rarely without a camera or two…or three. I have recently learned how to quilt and am loving it. I cross-stitch when I’m not busy with other things. I can’t remember a holiday when I didn’t give homemade gifts instead of store-bought gifts. I love music and own 6 different kinds of flutes. I make homemade cards to send to my niece with stories on them.

While I may be only mediocre at some of these skills, I’ve found that they all feed off of one another. One will be the impetus to get me to think in different ways for another. Can I incorporate beadwork into my quilting or cross-stitch? How can I get that green from a photo into the beadwork that I’m pulling together? What am I doing that can add to my stories for my niece? What will be the next adventure that I will embark upon to add more richness to my life? Maybe I will take up baking and canning. Hmm.

post-op

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You guys are awesome. Thanks for all of the thoughts.

I think I was just afraid because it was labeled as “cancer.” That’s a scary thought.

The procedure was interesting. They gave me a local. The incision was about 4 inches long, 1 inch wide and was somewhere between 1/2 – 1″ deep. It is pretty significant.

I’m sore today and took the day off because I didn’t sleep well. I’m a back sleeper and it hurt alot. I couldn’t find a comfortable place to lay.

The basal carcinoma is dealt with in a different way. I go in on December 2nd and have to be there early. They said it could take up to 5 hours. Because it’s on my hand, they take layer by layer, testing it as we go, so that they only have to take the layers that are actually cancerous.

That should be interesting.

My family really pulled through for me yesterday. I don’t have a high tolerance for pain and I tend to get scared of things like this especially when I have to deal with them alone. It’s the one thing that sucks about being single. You have to go through this stuff alone. Well, yesterday, Warren, my sister-in-law, my mom, and my
sister all came to the surgery with me to lend support. My mom actually went into the surgery with me so we could ask questions and make sure to have all of the information between the two of us. That was really nice.

My dad and two brothers called to make sure I was ok, too. It really helped to make the whole day much, much better.

Sorry if I was being a cry-baby yesterday. I was just a bit scared and emotional. Thanks again for all of your support.

Wednesday October 16, 2002

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You guys are awesome. Thanks for all of the thoughts.

I think I was just afraid because it was labeled as “cancer.” That’s a scary thought.

The procedure was interesting. They gave me a local. The incision was about 4 inches long, 1 inch wide and was somewhere between 1/2 – 1″ deep. It is pretty significant.

I’m sore today and took the day off because I didn’t sleep well. I’m a back sleeper and it hurt alot. I couldn’t find a comfortable place to lay.

The basal carcinoma is dealt with in a different way. I go in on December 2nd and have to be there early. They said it could take up to 5 hours. Because it’s on my hand, they take layer by layer, testing it as we go, so that they only have to take the layers that are actually cancerous.

That should be interesting.

My family really pulled through for me yesterday. I don’t have a high tolerance for pain and I tend to get scared of things like this especially when I have to deal with them alone. It’s the one thing that sucks about being single. You have to go through this stuff alone. Well, yesterday, AmberWitch, my sister-in-law, my mom, and my sister all came to the surgery with me to lend support. My mom actually went into the surgery with me so we could ask questions and make sure to have all of the information between the two of us. That was really nice.

My dad and two brothers called to make sure I was ok, too. It really helped to make the whole day much, much better.

Sorry if I was being a cry-baby yesterday. I was just a bit scared and emotional. Thanks again for all of your support.

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