Archive for April, 2006

the wheels turn




photo by me

I’ve written about my drives to work and how scary they can be because I’m surrounded by huge pickups and SUVs my entire drive.

Things have changed recently. I’m stilly surrounded by all of those vehicles but my driving has changed.

I like to drive fast. It’s exhilerating. It’s exciting. It’s like living on the edge and taking a chance.

I realized, though, that I’m burning more gas doing that. I also realized that I get this aggressive feeling going when I do so and then I get that road rage thing seeping into me. That’s scary.

But what really made me think about it was a faculty member here at the university. I was working with her on setting up a blog for one of her courses. We started talking about the things she’ll be discussing and how it will be used in the course.

She works in geography and spends a lot of time working in transportation and planning. She watches traffic patterns. She pays attention to the ways things work within traffic.

She told me that the speed limits aren’t arbitrary. They are set up for many reasons, including safety and good traffic flow. She told me that when people speed, it really screws up the way traffic flows and that’s why we have traffic jams.

So I started thinking about it.

And I started leaving home about ten minutes earlier just to test it all out.

I’ve noticed a few things.

First, I’m not as stressed. Even when someone cuts me off (which they seem to do more because I’m just not speeding with the rest of them), I laugh it off. I’m going to get there. I’ll be safe when I do. And I won’t have a knot in my stomach.

Second, I tend to drive in a relatively car-free zone. People are speeding around me and passing me, leaving me to have the entire area to myself. That’s kind of nice.

And third, I don’t sit at lights a whole lot. I tend to cruise right through them.

This does work better during the morning hours when the roads are a little less busy than the evening but even then, it still works pretty much the same.

I’ve removed a stressor from my life.

And it was easy.

that car

When we were living in Jacksonville, I remember we had an old Jaguar.  I don't remember the model but I remember it was old.  Really old.  I think it had either dents or rust, too. But it was a Jaguar.  And my dad could fix anything, being the gifted welder that he was.

The thing I remember is that, for us, it was a status symbol.  It didn't matter how old, how beat up, how un-marketable that car was, it was a Jaguar and RICH people drove those.

Here we were:  dirty, rag-tag kids, hoping to find the next meal.  But we had a Jaguar.

That's the important thing.

Wednesday April 19, 2006


photo by me

Originally published on my main site: life inchoate

Yesterday, in a discussion with the press, President Bush threw a slight temper tantrum. He stated,

“I hear the voices and I read the front page and I hear the speculation. But I’m the decider, and I decide what’s best.”

Okay, first of all, he’s finally admitting that he hears those little voices.

DUDE…that’s an illness. Get some serious help. I mean, really.  I can forgive Bush if he’s hearing voices and acting on his illness. But he can’t be president anymore.

Time to get out.

And “the decider”??? What the heck?

Okay, my seven-year-old niece doesn’t even say, “I’m the decider and I decide.” No, she says, “I’m the leader and I choose.”

That sounds more like a young kid throwing a tantrum than it does the President of a nation. But, then again, we’ve never had a President quite like Bush, have we? Maybe he is a big five-year-old….ala Tom Hanks in Big. Huh.

Seriously, though. “I’m the decider.”

I was in my car, listening to that, and laughed all the way home.

eh?


photo by me

Yesterday, in a discussion with the press, President Bush threw a slight temper tantrum. He stated,

“I hear the voices and I read the front page and I hear the speculation. But I’m the decider, and I decide what’s best.”

Okay, first of all, he’s finally admitting that he hears those little voices.

DUDE…that’s an illness. Get some serious help. I mean, really. I can forgive Bush if he’s hearing voices and acting on his illness. But he can’t be president anymore.

Time to get out.

And “the decider”??? What the heck?

Okay, my seven-year-old niece doesn’t even say, “I’m the decider and I decide.” No, she says, “I’m the leader and I choose.”

That sounds more like a young kid throwing a tantrum than it does the President of a nation. But, then again, we’ve never had a President quite like Bush, have we? Maybe he is a big five-year-old….ala Tom Hanks in Big. Huh.

Seriously, though. “I’m the decider.”

I was in my car, listening to that, and laughed all the way home.

Tuesday April 18, 2006


photo by me

Originally published on my main site: life inchoate

I have an office at work. I know. I’m fortunate. There are millions and millions of people out there forced to work in the cubicle culture and I have an office.

It doesn’t have any windows. In fact, it’s an internal office.

But it’s an office. And I love it. It’s cozy and comfortable. All of my furniture is made of wood, which I love. I have waited patiently until the right wood desk came available and I pounced on it. I searched for a few months for the right wood bookcase and it finally showed up in campus surplus.

I don’t use the overhead flourescents to light my office. I have two 60w lamps that are also wood (and match, coincidentally) to light up my office in a soft, warm glow.

Soon, I will have an aquarium converted into a terrarium to bring some green into my office.

I have some of my photographs on the wall.

I have a big white board with a drawing from Willow and a note from a former student worker on it (along with lists for work).

I love my office.

There is only one problem. The custodian ignores my office.

I come in daily and my garbage is full. It wasn’t emptied the night before. Other people will have theirs emptied but he doesn’t come into my office.

I’ve seen him. He has talked to me. In fact, he told me that he loves coming in to my office because he likes my photography.

But he doesn’t empty my garbage.

What the…??? It’s so odd.

I’ve found a way around by emptying it myself into a larger, more central trash bin. But still…

I’m not sure what is going on but it is the most odd thing.

Maybe I need to put up some new photography. Maybe he got bored.

Hmmm…

office culture


photo by me

I have an office at work. I know. I’m fortunate. There are millions and millions of people out there forced to work in the cubicle culture and I have an office.

It doesn’t have any windows. In fact, it’s an internal office.

But it’s an office. And I love it. It’s cozy and comfortable. All of my furniture is made of wood, which I love. I have waited patiently until the right wood desk came available and I pounced on it. I searched for a few months for the right wood bookcase and it finally showed up in campus surplus.

I don’t use the overhead flourescents to light my office. I have two 60w lamps that are also wood (and match, coincidentally) to light up my office in a soft, warm glow.

Soon, I will have an aquarium converted into a terrarium to bring some green into my office.

I have some of my photographs on the wall.

I have a big white board with a drawing from Willow and a note from a former student worker on it (along with lists for work).

I love my office.

There is only one problem. The custodian ignores my office.

I come in daily and my garbage is full. It wasn’t emptied the night before. Other people will have theirs emptied but he doesn’t come into my office.

I’ve seen him. He has talked to me. In fact, he told me that he loves coming in to my office because he likes my photography.

But he doesn’t empty my garbage.

What the…??? It’s so odd.

I’ve found a way around by emptying it myself into a larger, more central trash bin. But still…

I’m not sure what is going on but it is the most odd thing.

Maybe I need to put up some new photography. Maybe he got bored.

Hmmm…

prenatal

My parents met while they were still in their teens.  Back when the world was awash in innocence and revolution all at once, they came together.

My father was a Navy man, stationed in Idaho (of all places), assigned to nuclear energy school.  My mom was a local girl, whose father, uncles, and brother were all Navy men, also.  My mom was a wild child.  She was a party girl.  She drank and smoked much younger than she should have.  I'm guessing that is one of the things that attracted my dad to her.  He was quiet, reserved, from a Colorado farming family.

They weren't married when I was conceived.  It was a torrid affair.

I've read some of the letters that my mom wrote to my dad after he got shipped out and she found out she was pregnant.  They are heartbreaking.  A seventeen year-old-girl who didn't have any business having a child was trying to be strong and stand up for herself.  My dad, barely nineteen, himself, was off trying to find his way in the world.

My mom had considered abortion.  It was illegal back then and the only way to do it, somewhat safely, was to go to Mexico.  I've heard that her sister offered to take her.  I don't know if that's true or not but I do know that my mom wanted to be a mother and chose to have me after I popped into her life unexpectantly.

They married in June.  I was born in December.  I spent little time in my birth state of Idaho.  From what I understand, I was carried off to Colorado to meet my grandparents.  My grandfather, a redhead like me, was enchanted with his first granddaughter (and I, him).  My grandmother, from the tales, was ambivalent, thinking that my mother tricked my dad into marriage.

We moved to the east where my dad was stationed.  We lived in Charleston and Jacksonville (these are the only two places I know of – it could have been more).  We weren't out there long – maybe 3 years at the most.
My first memory is of the duplex in Jacksonville. My brother, Todd, who was born in Jacksonville, was already a toddler.  We were outside playing in the mud.  We made mud pies and, I guess, they were full of fire ants.  We did eat them (mmmm…protein!).

I remember hiding under my bed in that house.  I had an imaginary friend that I talked to under the bed.  I remember, one time, my mom bending down to find me under there, talking to my friend with me.

I remember sitting on the floor in the kitchen, below the sink.  My mom was sitting next to me.  Todd was climbing all over her.  She was crying.  She wasn't just crying, she was overwrought with tears.  I started crying.  Todd started crying.

She was overwhelmed.  She was nineteen, 3000 miles from home, a husband away for 9 month stints, and she was alone, with two young kids.  She was lonely.  She was sad.

That memory still hurts my heart. 

Monday April 17, 2006

Originally published on my main site: life inchoate


photo by me

Recently Sage said he would be interested in hearing more about my adventures (if you call them that) in growing up poor.

I am working on setting up a separate blog to be able to do this.

Why another blog, you may ask.

Well, for me, this blog is about what is going on in my life now. It allows me to talk about school, family, work, the color of the sky, my issues with authority, what-have-you. I have a photoblog that is for my daily photo. I have my flickr account as a gallery of my photography (all of which does not make it to my photoblog). I have a blog for my school papers – but since I write only sporadically, it gets updated only sporadically. I have the Flagstaff Daily Photo blog that I recently started to share a photo a day of my lovely town. Some photos are new, some are not. I also have my Xanga blog where I cross-post entries from here.

I also have some other projects that are school related and not publically released.

So, yeah, I have a lot going on but if I compartmentalize, I’m able to keep them all straight.

Soon to be released: white trash girl. Watch for it on computer screens near you.

another project


photo by me

Recently Sage said he would be interested in hearing more about my adventures (if you call them that) in growing up poor.

I am working on setting up a separate blog to be able to do this.

Why another blog, you may ask.

Well, for me, this blog is about what is going on in my life now. It allows me to talk about school, family, work, the color of the sky, my issues with authority, what-have-you. I have a photoblog that is for my daily photo. I have my flickr account as a gallery of my photography (all of which does not make it to my photoblog). I have a blog for my school papers – but since I write only sporadically, it gets updated only sporadically. I have the Flagstaff Daily Photo blog that I recently started to share a photo a day of my lovely town. Some photos are new, some are not. I also have my Xanga blog where I cross-post entries from here.

I also have some other projects that are school related and not publically released.

So, yeah, I have a lot going on but if I compartmentalize, I’m able to keep them all straight.

Soon to be released: white trash girl. Watch for it on computer screens near you.

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