dating in the 00s
Dating sucks.
It sucks even more when you’re nearly 40, you’ve never been married (so people wonder what’s wrong with you), you’re somewhat reclusive/introverted, and you don’t know how to meet guys unless it’s online.
Seriously.
I wouldn’t know how to meet a local guy locally if I was pushed head first into it.
So I meet men online. I’ve been doing it for nearly 15 years at this point (and some have been okay and some not so okay). But that’s how I do it.
So, I’m talking to a man online (a younger man, as it may be – someone I probably wouldn’t consider normally but there is very little chance that it will go anywhere because he’s moving to Oregon soon). Yeah. He lives in my town. I could probably see him within 15-20 minutes if traffic was good.
We’ve been talking onliine for a month. Have we met? No. Have we talked on the phone? No. Have we even exchanged names? Nope.
But all of a sudden, his move date has been pushed up and I say to him, “Wow. That’s soon. Maybe we can meet for coffee (or since I don’t drink coffee, tea) before you leave.”
Ack!
And he replies, “My week is open.”
Uhhh. I didn’t mean right away. Ummm. Runaway. Runaway. Scared. Frightened. Good god.
I’m 39 years old and men (even 10 years my junior) still have the ability to make me act like a little girl.
Sheesh.
You would think I’d be over it by now.
But the plain truth is that I love men. I adore them. I like talking to them. I like hanging out with them. I like hearing their perspectives on things.
And I like the way that a look, a simple look, can make me weak in the knees.
And that all scares me at the same time.
I haven’t responded yet. Maybe I’ll suggest meeting for lunch sometime.
Not this week.
Maybe next.
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about 4 years ago
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about 4 years ago
Go with coffee/tea for the first round…less of a committment and if things are really going bad (hopefully not), in 20 minutes or so, you can gracefully say bye bye….Lunch, well that’s another story, food on the table, what do you do…endure an hour or so with someone who’s clearly all wrong.
DOn’t mean to be negative, just realistic. And I have heard of some amazing success stories with very happy and lasting endings, via online dating.
good luck, you are stronger than you think…And that weak in the knees thing…a good thing if you ask me.
G
about 4 years ago
Go for it, lunch isn’t too long–have a time limit–somewhere you have to be, then enjoy yourself, even if he moves to Oregon, enjoy the time (and if he’s a jerk, leave quickly and try again
about 3 years ago
Think of it as an adventure. And think of yourself as daring, because you are.