photo by me

…not perfect. Can you imagine? And I have more weight on my bones than I should have (but this is something I’m working on).

Last week, I had an ex tell me that I don’t always show myself in the most flattering light. He said that when I share photos of myself with other people online, I should only show those that flatter.

To me, though, that’s being dishonest. I don’t dress up each day and if you know me, that’s what you will find out. In fact, dressing up is a chore to me. You’ll find me in jeans and t-shirts or sweaters much more often than in high heels or hose/tights.

And you know, if a photograph shows me as overweight, well, that’s because I am. And if it’s not something someone likes, then I truly feel that they are missing out.

We place SO much emphasis on this outer shell of ours, that we forget to look inside. Does that person have a good heart? Can that person converse with me on the same level about similar things? Will that person have the same parenting style that I have? Does that person have similar philosophies that I have when it comes to how to live life?

Omigod. I have cellulite. Yeah, it’s unsightly but how often does anyone really see it? I mean, really?

Doesn’t my compassion count more than cellulite?

And you know what makes me laugh even more? Men who say they’ve dated larger women and don’t have a type but the minute they meet a larger woman, they say, “You’re larger than the women I typically date.”

Oh? But you told me that you’ve dated women who have outweighed me by 50 pounds. That’s interesting. Is it the height? Is it the big bones? What makes you think that I’m suddenly bigger than those women who outweighed me?

Grrr.

At least be honest about it. If you dont’ like larger women, say so from the beginning. If you have an issue with not feeling manly next to a larger woman, realize that it is your issue and not her issue and don’t put it back on her.

Those words sting. You have no idea how much they sting.