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This will be the last time I bring up this topic because I have a lot of other things I want to write about. I also don’t think it’s incumbant upon me to educate men about pregnancy. There is a lot of information out there. It’s easy to find.

There are a wide range of opinions and studies and no matter what your opinion on this subject is, you’ll find something to back it up.

Suffice it to say, women have been having babies into older ages since the dawn of time. It just so happens that older ages weren’t as old as they are now. People died at 35.

I have read countless books where women had 10, 15, even 20 kids, well into their middle ages, because they didn’t use birth control (it wasn’t allowed) and because their husbands couldn’t or wouldn’t practice abstinence.

I shook my head when Rick came back to say this,

You say this is a double standard. I don’t see how it is so. I’m not saying that older women shouldn’t date younger men. If it floats your boat and all that. I’m just pointing out the biological “truth” if that word can be used.

At some point we became “enlightened” and women were supposed to wait to start families for a variety of reasons. Why? The species hasn’t survived this long by women waiting to have kids when they’re 40. Probably wouldn’t have either.

Feminism denigrates the role of mother while claiming that it is seeking more power for women. Funny that it is always the men who end up benefitting. Makes you wonder…..Qui bono.

Women are encouraged to explore their sexuality, find a career and eschew differences between the sexes. So when they finally come around to starting a family, they’re no longer in demand. When they were in demand, they weren’t interested in starting a family or embracing marriage and all that goes with it.

And just to let you know, I believe you should have kids whenever you want. I didn’t say it wasn’t ok. I was merely commenting that the man in question is stating a reality.

First, I think Rick has the best of intentions. But I also think that he doesn’t understand women very well or what the double standard is here. I’m going to lay it out plainly.

By the standard that the men who have responded to these posts have put up, MEN can FATHER children well into their 40s. WOMEN should have BABIES when they are YOUNG and be GRANDMAS when they are my age or older.

That’s a double standard.

No one ever said women were “supposed” to do anything. I didn’t have the opportunity to start a family when I was younger. You want the details? I was dating a VERY abusive man until I was 25. Then he stalked me for 2 years. Then I dated another and another and another because I was stupid and not very sure of myself and probably thinking I deserved it. Then I quit dating altogether because I wanted to get my life together.

Crazy, that. I should have been popping out babies if I had wanted them instead of waiting until I was more stable.

Huh.

And let’s play the feminism game. It’s so very much fun to use the “feminism” word to place all of the world’s woes on the backs of women. Easy cop out. Too easy. Try something original because that definitely isn’t going to work on my blog.

I get it. I’m no longer in demand. I guess I went out of style like emerald-cut diamonds.

If only I were a marquis.

Woe is me.